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Counselling Psychologist, Organisational Psychologist, Psychologist
I would encourage you to develop a relationship with your daughter which encourages an open and trusting relaionship between the two of you and one in which she is OK in sharing with you herself what she is doing on the internet rather than a relationship where she feels you are “spying” on her and she then becomes more secretive about what she is doing.
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Clinical Psychologist, Psychologist
I would also add, that as a 14 year old she does not have the cognitive capacity to always make well informed judgements and decisions. As such, I certainly understand your concern with regard to internet and phone usage.
I would suggest setting firm limits around computer and phone usage. Such as not having a computer in her bedroom, and handing over her phone when she goes to bed. I would also encourage you to show a genuine interest in her friends & activities, as this is the best way to develop an open and trusting relationship with your daughter.
While having an open and honest relationship with your daughter is certainly very important, respecting her privacy is equally important. As a parent it can be a challenge to accept that your little girl who used to tell you everything….is sometimes “secretive”. This is not necessarily a bad thing, and may simply reflect that she is growing up and developing her own identity.
Best of luck!
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